When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, AND THE SITUATION WILL CHANGE.
Thich Nhat Hanh
Very wise words, this has been my personal experience too. Sometimes, we all just need to understand our loved ones and friends, or be understood by them. Love goes a far way. May this little gem be useful to you.
Peace and Love,
Natalie
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